I do not have all the answers. God does! Hopefully some of them were helpful to you. The essential thing is beyond facts themselves. It is the simple willingness to accept truth no matter what it might be. Craig Nolin writes in quoting Dr. Drew Westen:
“When people draw conclusions about particular events, they are not just weighing the facts. ‘Without knowing it, they are also weighing what they would feel if they came to one conclusion or another, and they often come to the conclusion that would make them feel better, no matter what the facts are.’“
Dr. Weston found that knowing an individual’s predisposition proved to be a perfect predictor of their ultimate decision 84% of the time, which suggests that no amount of facts would change their original position … regardless of whether we are talking about diets, exercise, politics, religion, or business … This characteristic is the inspiration of the old line, “Don’t confuse me with the facts. My mind is made up!”